Picture this: You’re walking into a room of new faces with your head held high. Now, you’re speaking in front of colleagues at a conference. Now, you’re asking that person out for dinner. What do these things have in common? They can all be nerve-wracking experiences. The good news is, there are 11 things you can do to give you the confidence you need to face these situations with ease.
Smiling makes you feel good about yourself! When you feel good, you realise you can do anything. When you smile, you become less concerned of your self-perceived shortcomings and appreciate who you are. It’s a simple and powerful habit you can start doing right this moment. Plus, it takes less muscles than frowning so relax!
- Recognise that you’re not perfect
Who is? But be confident with who you are. Being confident means you know what you stand for, what you’re capable of and what you can’t do well. The latter is especially important. Knowing that you’re not good at something gives you the purpose to actively do something about it. Awareness also helps you avoid situations that could deal a blow to your self-confidence; you then learn to appreciate and value your skills. What’s more, you can then delegate these tasks to those who can do a great job.
Don’t strive for perfection; focus on being the best version of yourself. That’s true perfection.
- Wear your favourite outfit
We all have that outfit that gets a lot of compliments from friends and family. It can be a dress, a suit, or a simple tie. Boost your confidence by wearing it often. Knowing that you look great shows in the way you walk, the way you speak, and the way you react to other people. Let that confidence shine through and don’t forget Step 1!
- Stop comparing yourself to others
As the wise Dr. Seuss once said, “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
You are unique, and there’s no point in comparing yourself to other people. Remember that you have a different life journey from the person you are comparing yourself to; you have encountered different opportunities and challenges along the way; and you each have your own skill sets. The only standard you should hold yourself to is your past performance. Let go of all the other expectations and dare to exceed yourself.
- Don’t base your worth on other people’s opinions
Insecurity often comes from trying to meet other people’s standards, which might not apply to your life goals. They have not walked in your shoes and you have not walked in theirs; what other people think should not define who you are.
Set your own expectations. Realising your worth releases you from the unease caused by trying to prove yourself to people who don’t truly appreciate the real you.
- Focus on what you like about yourself
List down 10 things you’re proud of about yourself, no matter how small or silly.
Make it a habit to build yourself up and watch your self-confidence reach an exhilarating high.
- Do your homework
Moving to a new city? Meeting a new client? Doing a presentation? Preparing for the task at hand gives you the confidence to handle any situation with pizazz.
Gather all the tools and information that you need, map out an action plan, and set the goal you want to achieve. You’ll be a lot more confident going into it. Apply this prep work to all aspects of your life. A party calls for you looking good and having conversation topics in mind. A speech calls for weeks of prior practice and feedback from peers. You’ll feel ready to take on anything!
- Talk about something you know
If you feel awkward in social situations because you think you have nothing to contribute to the conversation, remedy that by talking about things you know and love.
You don’t have to awkwardly jump right in. Casually strike up a conversation with someone about something they’ve said and try to relate this to something you know or have experienced. Trust us, it’s not as hard as it seems to be!
Practice with friends if you’re still apprehensive about talking to strangers from the get go. Each session will increase your confidence by leaps and bounds.
- Discover your passions
Being passionate about a cause, an idea, or an activity, brings out the fire in you. Your eyes are filled with awe and wonder; you’re completely caught up in the moment, driven by a sense of purpose and desire.
Whether it’s social entrepreneurship, climate change, dogs, graphic design, or cycling, knowing what you’re passionate about gives you a sense of direction, which will then translate to confidence.
- Ask for feedback
Sometimes, it’s easy to be overwhelmed by all these flaws that you see. Keep in mind that not everyone sees you the way you do. Approach someone you’re close to and ask them what they think of you. Listen to – and believe – all the good things they have to say about you. Also ask for their feedback on areas where you can do better.
Once they’ve shared their opinion, let it all soak in. Understand it and be brave enough to act on it if you need to. Be thankful for these people who see you for who you truly are and not as the person that’s in your head. You are a beautiful individual and you may not have realised that if not for them.
- Celebrate being you
Being yourself is the ultimate confidence booster. It liberates you from unnecessary judgement and comparisons. What’s more, it focuses the spotlight on your true worth. You know what you can do and the value you bring to every situation, and that is more than enough.
Are there other confidence boosters you’d like to add? Do drop a line in the comments section below!